HOW LOVE STARTS
Often relationships start with attraction, lust, passion and desire. As couple’s move through the various stages of their relationship they can begin to experience differences in opinions and changes in responsibilities that can cause tensions.
The following are signs that your relationship is in trouble
- Not being informed about your partner’s weeks, job stressors, daily events etc
- Not feeling warmth or admiration towards your partner
- Retreating into your own world and limiting communication with your partner
- Not being able to resolve conflict or avoiding disagreements all together
- Not agreeing on your future life goals, aspirations or dreams.
The Gottman Institute- the experts in marriage counselling have found fundamental reasons to marital distress. Having nearly four decades of research exploring the magic behind lasting relationship they have created a three tiered model called the “the sound relationship house”.
THREE TIERS OF A LASTING RELATIONSHIP
The bottom tier focuses on forming a relationship that is founded on friendship and knowing about each other’s worlds, sharing fondness, admiration and turning toward each other during times of tension. The second tier focuses on effective conflict resolution skills and having a positive perspective of your partner. The top tier and most fundamental tier of lasting relationships involve developing a shared meaning of your life and making your dreams come true.
At Counselling2Wellness your therapist will use the following framework to guide your treatment
1. Meet with you and your partner to explore the history of your relationship and provide you with Gottman questionnaires to complete
2. Meet with each partner individually to assess their views on the relationship and collect the Gottman questionnaires.
3. Provide you with feedback looking at the Gottman questionnaires. Begin to support you and your partner to engage in discussions and strategies to strengthen your communication patterns.
Online marriage counseling provides a convenient and effective way to work through relationship issues with the guidance and support of a licensed therapist. You and your partner can attend counseling sessions from the comfort of your own home, at a time that works for your schedule. This can make it easier to prioritize your relationship and ensure that you are able to commit to the counseling process.
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